Making the transition from parenting with your romantic partner to co-parenting takes some adjustments. It’s a good idea for both parents to sit down and discuss some of the guidelines and boundaries that are necessary for this arrangement.
Some guidelines are fairly universal, so considering how to implement these in your situation is important. These three points are a good place to start.
Communication is important
Communication is the cornerstone of a good co-parenting relationship. Since co-parenting is based on mutual respect, that should continue in the communication. It may be necessary to set boundaries for this, including times that are suitable for communication. Of course, specific times won’t matter if there’s an emergency with the children.
Parenting time may require changes
Parenting time schedules are central to co-parenting, but those schedules sometimes have to be altered. When both parents can work as a team to make these changes, the children are most likely to benefit.
Transition days should be calm
The days when the children move from one parent to the other should remain as calm as possible. These aren’t the times to discuss anything with your ex that could lead to a disagreement. Instead, help the children to remain as stress-free as possible.
These terms should be included in your parenting plan. Getting this together quickly after you split up from your child’s other parent can help everyone start adjusting to the new normal. It may be best to work with someone familiar with these situations to give you a hand with getting the plan together.