One of the best things you can do while getting divorced, at least from a mental and emotional standpoint, is to focus on your future. Many people focus on the past or what they believe they are losing. Instead, your viewpoint should always be on what the future can be and the opportunities you have.
This perspective can help you determine how to move through the divorce. For example, it can be important to set goals for yourself. Maybe you want to rethink where your career will go or what professional options you have. Will that impact what assets you take out of the divorce or how do you split up custody time with the children?
Take control with SMART goals
First off, many people recommend using SMART goals. SMART stands for Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant and Time-bound. This just means picking realistic goals and giving yourself a rough deadline for when you want to accomplish them.
Expand your social circle
Another thing to focus on could be increasing your social support network or your social circle in general. Maybe you want to reconnect with old friends. Perhaps you just want to put more effort into the relationships you already have. It can make it much easier to go through a divorce when you know you have this companionship and support elsewhere.
Focus on your kids
If you’re a parent, then perhaps the easiest thing to do is to focus on your children. You may still need to work with your co-parent after the divorce. But if you put your children first and focus on their goals and their best interests, then it makes it a lot easier to communicate and cooperate with your ex.
No matter where you are in the divorce process, always be sure you know what legal steps to take.