Realizing that your marriage is over is not easy, but it’s something that needs to be addressed with a conversation between spouses. There is no right or wrong way to approach the conversation, as every relationship is unique. Nonetheless, some common factors could be helpful.
Outlined below are some tips on how to approach the divorce conversation with your spouse.
Take your time
Divorce shouldn’t be a rash decision made in the heat of the moment. Sometimes, spouses use this as a threat during a heated argument. The problem with this is that if they do not really mean it, “I want a divorce” is a difficult statement to take back.
Instead, you’ll want to carefully consider all of your options. Once you have rationally decided that divorce is for the best, you can move on to the next step of the conversation.
Choosing the right time
Ideally, you want to choose the calmest possible time to bring up the conversation. If your spouse has just arrived home after a busy day at work, this may not be the best time. The same can be said if the children are around. Pick a time when you and your spouse can remain uninterrupted.
Choosing the right words
The divorce conversation shouldn’t be just another argument. It is not beneficial for either spouse to blame one another for the shortcomings in the marriage. If possible, take a neutral approach. Allow your spouse time to process what you have said and reply when they are ready.
These are just some ideas on how to make the divorce conversation easier. Having a plan in place can make the divorce process much more efficient. So too can having legal guidance on your side.